What We Were
Never Taught
[a 10-week EFT couples
workshop series]

How Love
Actually Works

where you’ll begin to understand the why beneath your same old fights and figure out how to finally feel close again

CLAIM YOUR SPOT

transform attachment

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reconnect

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experience intimacy again

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reclaim your marriage

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transform attachment * reconnect * experience intimacy again * reclaim your marriage *

If you’re here, chances are…

  • You and your partner love each other deeply yet somehow, you keep ending up stuck in the same arguments.

  • You have no idea why you end up as upset as you do over the seemingly smallest of issues.

  • You are frustrated that no one ever taught you how this all works and exhausted from trying to figure it out on your own.

  • You leave conversations feeling misunderstood, shut down, or absolutely infuriated.

  • …and no matter how much you talk about it (IF you ever talk about it), nothing ever changes.

get to know your workshop facilitator, Sarah Oldendorf, LPC

more about Sarah

you feel like you’ve
exhausted all your options…

you’ve probably already:

  • Stayed up until 2:00 am Googling “how to stop being angry at my husband.”

  • Sent your partner reels about attachment styles and love languages.

  • Practiced using “I feel …” statements… and still ended up feeling entirely misunderstood.

  • Asked ChatGPT how on earth to get through to your partner

  • Listened to relationship podcasts hoping something would finally click and help it all make sense.

  • Even gave couples therapy a shot…to no avail.

  • Tried ALL (and I mean all) the “communication tips” you’ve seen TikTok.

  • Replayed arguments in your head trying to figure out what you should have said so that it may have not ended up the way it did.

…but NOTHING has actually worked

…you’re not failing
…you don’t hate your partner
…you are not “doomed”

You were just never taught
how relationships actually work.

How do I know if this
workshop is right for us?

  • You have the same fights over and over…and over, yet nothing ever feels resolved.

  • During conflict, one of you tends to lean in, pushing harder while the other partner walls off & shuts down… leaving you both feeling misunderstood.

  • You are deeply committed to each other, but recently you feel more like roommates (on a good day) and opponents (on a rough day).

  • You’re motivated to work on your relationship and willing to show up consistently for 10 weeks.

  • You’re ready to learn more than communication skills, you want to understand what’s actually happening under the surface.

*This group may not be a great fit if there is ongoing betrayal, infidelity, active addiction, or safety concerns.
In these cases, more individualized support is more appropriate.

This is:

  • A structured, time-limited, 10-week group designed to teach core relationship and attachment skills in an explicit, supportive way.

  • A compilation of my expertise and lived experience as a couples therapist in workshop format

  • Practical, tangible skills you can use immediately

  • A chance to truly understand your partner’s inner world, and let them into yours

  • A guided, supportive environment to learn how to do things differently

This is not:

  • Another self-paced online marriage course some wellness influencer created with AI

  • A passive lecture series

  • A place to endlessly vent about your week and the shortcomings of your partner

What this Workshop is (& isn’t)

What to Expect:

  • An experiential, live workshop series led by Sarah Oldendorf, LPC (an EFT trained therapist with years of experience that isn’t afraid to give it to you straight).
    *no generic ChatGPT generated stuff

  • Explicit, tangible skills that actually help in the heat of the moment.

  • To be let into the most intimate part of your partner’s world and to allow your partner into yours maybe even for the first time.

This WORKSHOP EXISTS so you don’t have to keep
struggling to figure it out on your own...

Why “trying harder” or
saying you’ll “do better” is never enough

Most couples don’t struggle because of a lack of effort or love.
They struggle because they don’t understand what’s happening underneath the conflict, and no one ever showed them what to do in the moment, when it matters most.

Skills alone aren’t worth a damn if you don’t understand:

  • Why you react so strongly over seemingly “small” things

  • Why your partner shuts down or gets defensive at lightning speed

  • Why the same cycle keeps repeating, even when you swear it’ll be different next time

This work is SO MUCH MORE THAN “the right thing to say” or an isolated skill
It’s about understanding your attachment patterns, your nervous system, and your relational cycle, and then learning how to respond differently.

I want you to finally understand…

  • Why you react the way you do when you feel hurt or disconnected

  • How attachment shapes conflict, closeness, and emotional safety

  • The pursue/withdraw cycle we ALL get stuck in (and how to recognize your part in it)

  • What’s happening with your nervous system during conflict

  • Why “communication tips” alone don’t work when you feel emotionally unsafe

Here’s what you’ll walk away with:

  • Less blowups and shutting down. More steadiness in hard moments.

  • Clarity about what’s actually happening when you fight about the correct way to load the dishwasher or that the trash didn’t get taken out again.

  • Language for your emotions and needs that invites connection instead of defensiveness.

  • A renewed sense of knowing (and being known by) your partner.

  • Certainty that there is another way to do this… and practical tools to actually make it happen.

…but why wouldn’t we just do regular couples therapy?

Traditional weekly couples therapy is incredibly valuable. It can also be a slower, more open-ended process often shaped by week-to-week stressors, scheduling interruptions, and whichever crisis feels loudest that day.

This 10-week group experience is intentionally structured and time-bound.
Instead of starting over each week reacting to whatever happened since your last session, we follow a clear roadmap that builds week after week.

You’re learning the “why” behind and beginning to actually understand your negative cycle, access the deeper emotions underneath it, and practice new ways of reaching for each other.

There’s also something powerful about the group format that you cannot get in private couples therapy.

Couples often discover:

  • “Oh… it’s not just us.”

  • “We’re not crazy or broken.”

  • “This pattern actually makes sense.”

Shame decreases. Defensiveness softens. Hope expands.

It’s not better than private couples therapy.
It’s certainly not for every couple.
It’s simply a focused, immersive alternative for couples who are ready to be intentional and want momentum.

The cost of staying stuck

You can keep doing what you’re doing…

  • Spending time and money on therapy without movement

  • Walking on eggshells

  • Shutting your partner out emotionally

  • Hoping the next conversation goes better

  • Praying one day things will just get better

OR you can invest in gaining the information and learning the skills that make change possible.

I’ve seen too many couples stall simply because they didn’t have this foundation and wanted to “skip to the good part.”

….this is the good part

if you are way past ready…

RESERVE YOUR SPOT

INVESTMENT:

Early Bird Rate:
(register and submit paperwork/deposit by March 5)

$1,750 per couple

Standard Rate:
(register and submit paperwork/deposit after March 5)

$2,000 per couple

Registration Includes:

  • 10 weekly 75-minute sessions

  • Structured take-home exercises to continue the work between sessions

  • All workshop materials

*spots are intentionally limited to protect the intimacy and integrity of the group structure

DATES:
March 26 - May 28

This workshop is designed to give you practical tools and a deeper understanding of the patterns that keep you stuck.
You’ll walk away with language for your cycle and a clearer sense of how to reach for each other differently.

Application & Enrollment
to Claim Your Spot

  • Complete & Submit the interest form below

  • We’ll review your application to ensure this group is the right fit

  • If accepted, you’ll receive an invitation to complete registration

  • Payment and intake paperwork are completed securely through our online client portal, Simple Practice.

  • Your spot is reserved once enrollment is finalized and deposit paid.

**due to limited space (4–6 couples per cohort) enrollment is expected to fill quickly.